Friendships after Weight Loss Surgery
Congratulations! You decided to have weight loss surgery to turn your life around and begin a new healthy lifestyle. More than likely you feel amazing and you are healthier than you have ever been before. You are doing things for the first time and crushing your goals. There is something so empowering about this journey. Your friends and family are probably noticing a difference in the way you interact with them. Hopefully you have had a good support system on this weight loss surgery journey because you are still going to need them as you settle into your new way of life.
Having a healthy support system is key after bariatric surgery. You are going to go through so many emotions and will have many ups and downs. It is critical that you have people in your life to help lift you up. Unfortunately, after you have surgery you might notice some of your friends withdrawing from you. This is hard to accept when you are on this journey because they are people that you thought would be your biggest cheerleaders. To be honest, some people just cannot handle your new lifestyle. It might be because you used to eat out at restaurants with them and now you can’t go to tons of bars and restaurants and live the same lifestyle you were prior to surgery. When someone is used to interacting with you where food is involved and you tell them that you can no longer do those things, they might withdraw because they want that lifestyle. It might not be anything personal. It might just be that they want friends who can do those things with them.
Learning to accept that friendships might change is one of the hardest things to accept on this journey. You might also find that you do not want to hang out with the same people if you feel like they are bad influences. You might want to try to find a new group of friends that have the same healthy lifestyle. Regardless of whether you lose or gain friends, you must remember your worth. Some people might also be a little jealous of your success, which might make them pull back from you. If you feel that this is the case, I encourage you to try to mend that relationship and be there for that person. They are obviously struggling with some internal battles and could probably use a loyal friend.
In the end, you must remember you took this step for yourself. You wanted to be healthier and live your best life. The friends and family that are meant to be in your life will stay in your life no matter what. So, go out there and do your thing and love those that support you on this crazy journey!
- Kimberly H.